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16 THINGS ONLY SELECTIVELY-SOCIAL PEOPLE CAN RELATE TO:


WARNING: Sociable people may find this piece of writing shitty and exaggerated about being Selectively Social. 

Well! I am frank, entertaining, funny, cool, out-going, loud, chatty and everything you could expect a sociable person to be… But I am only sociable with a certain kind of people and that’s what tags me ‘The Selectively Social’. I’m close and frank only with my family and friends.
If you can relate to the list of things I posted below, there are 100% chances we can become instant best friends. 

1. You are very frank and loud at home or when you are with your friends but you turn into a timid shy ball when you are with people you hardly know. 

2. You are the entertainer in your friends circle but you hate it when your friends expect you to entertain a crowd of strangers. 

3. You are very close to just one or two friends among your friends circle. With the rest of the friends in your circle, you are comfortable being you but you are not too close. 

4. There’s an uncertainty when you agree to keep in touch with people. There are days when you want to talk to people yet there are days when you don’t want to talk to anyone.

5. When your friends ask you to join them for an outing, the first thing you ask is; “Who else are coming along?” and the answer is always, always a BIG influence on your decision.

6. You try your best to avoid having a conversation with people and hence, you stay away as far as you can from your next-door neighbour, classmates, colleagues and friends of friends.

7. You enjoy being alone rather than hanging out with a bunch of people... but you become one of them if you join in.

8. You hate it when people comment on how boring you and your life are. When others plan for a freaking weekend partying, shopping and movies, all you look forward to is, a stay-at-home weekend, doing nothing much but just relax, read a book, write articles and dance to the blaring music with your pyjamas on. 

9. You cannot forgive yourself for inviting people to your home. Most of the time, you care the least about modesties but sometimes, “You can visit my place when you want to.” slips off your mouth and all you do is, regret. Just regret! You will then think of every possible excuse to give when they say they are visiting you. 

10. You hate it when your girlfriend or boyfriend has an out-going personality and you always get tagged ‘my lifeless girlfriend/boyfriend’. And if you are a single like me, your dream partner is not somebody who gets annoyed when you make no plans for hangouts and movies but somebody who loves staying at home spending quality time with you.

11. You love being around people you are close with but most of the time you cherish solitude. It’s not that you never want to be with people but at the same time it’s not that you want to be alone always. Nobody can or will ever understand your behaviour just as you yourself cannot.

12. You can stay mysteriously unplugged for weeks on end. There are days you talk to people a lot and there are days when you don’t even respond to the text messages and calls. 

13. You fear getting close to people. Sometimes you get along with a person very well but there comes a point where you think you are getting close to that somebody and you disconnect immediately for a long time. Getting attached to people isn’t your cup of tea.

14. You fancy the idea of people being sociable but you don’t want to attend gatherings even if all the friends in your circle gather. You hate to turn down an invitation because you don’t want to upset people but your solitude weighs more than that for you. 

15. There’s nothing more annoying than having an out-going person as your company. They can get on your nerves, talk to you about topics you least care and will persuade you to accompany them out on days you want to stay at home doing nothing. They will keep you waiting on the way while they talk to everyone they meet. Just because they smile and talk to everyone, you are seen crystal clear as ‘the contrast’.

16. To those people who don’t know you; you are and will remain that ‘grumpy, rude and anti-social person’ which in reality you aren’t.




Comments

  1. That's amazing !!! I read all the points again and again and come to a conclusion that this post very much relates to me . I would say cent percent . WOW !!! Thanks to your post , I can now describe myself as selectively social. Well written !!! I urge you to keep writing more and more and keep up the good work . Well done.
    Hats off
    Tashi Delek

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