Thursday, December 31, 2015

Farewell 2015 With The Final Bow To The Heartbreaker!



To The Heartbreaker,

2015 was helluva year! I was loved and then unloved by you. Following that were days I felt betrayed and ditched and there were days I felt I had been pushed back to reality by a blessing in disguise. There were days I wanted to yell at your face so that you could see the heartbreak in my eyes and there were days I would do anything to avoid seeing you. There were days I longed to talk you one last time and there were days I felt I should not waste any more time on you because you had wasted enough of my time already. I had been living all these days-turned-months, fighting my feelings. These always seemed to win. Just one of these feelings burdened my heart enough: all of them together crushed me. 

Why did you have to lead me on for a few months only to tell me in the end that you had mistaken attraction for love? Growing up, I realised that love and loyalty are my strength and I expect the same back from the people I give them to. Why did you think it was okay to awaken the best part of me and just toss it away for your own selfish pursuits, leaving me to experience the best part as my weakness? While I was learning to accept the apology I had never got, you appeared out of nowhere and said sorry as though this unfelt word of five letters strung together, could make me forget everything you have put me through and feel better. I had a playlist of fxck-you songs ready to throw at your face when you turned back to say sorry; they would make you feel terrible about what you did to me and every time you heard the songs being played, the sense of guilt would linger around you. But…I chose not to do that. Instead I forgave you and just as I predicted, forgiving you did not fill the void in me. After all those months of trying to leave my past where it belongs and move on ahead, there you were, asking me if I wanted to start over with you (and then disappear when I risked myself for another lie?). Why did you have to come back all of a sudden and make it even worse? If you were not going to help me heal, why did you have to return and derail my recovery?

The year 2015 has been a painful one. I had walked so many lonely paths under the city lights at nights. I had sat aloof at cafes trying to find some peace of mind - a state of not thinking about you - and you just do not know how chaotic my mind had been. You forced me over a very tough set of hurdles. I had people telling me not to put myself through so much and to move on from you but it had never been easy for me. There were moments when I felt I could not take it anymore. You took me for granted- you knew I was too steadfast to leave the relationship even if you did your best to stay away from me and went for weeks on end without talking to me. The sadness I felt was sickeningly heavy. Because of you, I have trust issues now. My heart is frozen solid already, at this young age. I have turned into somebody who believes that detaching myself from people is wiser than getting attached and being hurt in the end.

But the year was a learning experience as well. I’m happy I have finally come to my senses. You will understand how painful this has been for me only if you go through the same. Now that I am nine months removed from the situation, I am glad it ended when it did. I had become comfortable in our toxic relationship but I am happy that I have been able to wise up before reaching the point of no return. I realised that ending it has given me the opportunity to put myself in a better situation that will pave my way to becoming the woman I aspire to be. I have always wondered how people could have the courage to cut somebody they love out of their lives, move on and start over with somebody new but this time, I will do the same. I will not allow you and our past to haunt me or hold me back. It's high time for me now to accept the fact that people leave. They leave, they just leave. Every fibre of my being understands that I need to let go of the past and move on, for my own stability. I have learned my worth. I believe I am better than what I had settled for and that better things are on the way. I am setting myself free off all the chains binding me. I know someday I will look back at it all and be happy about the decision I made, to let you go. I believe I will be fine.

Thank you for pushing me back to reality and reminding me that I am supposed to be focused on things that matter, at this moment in my life. I appreciate you for pretending to be somebody you thought would measure up to my expectation and I realised, I fell in love with ‘that somebody’ you tried to be and not you. We may run into each other someday in a busy lane or at a café or anywhere we are destined to meet again but I hope the feelings I once had for you do not feel at home in me anymore. I hope my heart does not recognise yours. Let me end the story of us right where 2015 ends. I hope you grow wiser and respect women and our feelings. I hope I regain faith in love and people. I look forward for the year 2016, ready to start from the sketch with positivity, love and grace. 
In the end, you’re just a frog I mistakenly kissed believing you to be a prince.

So, there you go along with the year 2015!

Why Are You Not A Feminist?

“Gender equality is a shared vision of social justice and human rights. Women’s rights are human rights and human rights are women’s rights.” - Phumzile Mlambo-Ngcuka, UN Women Executive Director, at the High-level Thematic Debate on advancing gender equality and the empowerment of women and girls, 6 March 2015 at UN Headquarters in New York. 

According to Wikipedia, Gender equality is based on “the view that men and women should receive equal treatment, and should not face discrimination”. 
For gender equality to prevail, both the sexes should be treated equally. There is no equality when women are less privileged or being looked down upon. Women can do what men can and if not everything, we can do some things even men cannot do. We have qualities that many men do not possess.

Women are under-privileged and have been suffering from gender inequality for centuries. This is why the feminist movement was brought into action. Feminism is the belief that women should have the same rights and opportunities as men. 
But why is feminism still a controversial topic when all it stands for is equality of men and women?
“Feminism; the radical notion that women are people” reads the T-shirt I am wearing in the picture above. Women are people and deserve the same social, economic and political rights and opportunities as men.

That women are still regarded as inferior by many in our society is clear from a number of injustices: inequality in social privileges and job opportunities, the sexual violence in and outside home, less recognition for the same work done by both the sexes, unequal ratio of men and women in politics, stereotypes of how a woman should look and act, no identity for women often regarded as the wife of xxx, not providing education for young girls, heavy household chores, body-shaming. The list goes on. Just as in many other societies in the world, there are prejudiced opinions about the way women in our society act and dress.  

Somebody once asked me why I am a feminist when I am not abused or ill-treated within my own society. Feminism is not about just one woman, but about women as one. There is no woman who has not suffered from gender-inequality in her life just as there is no man who has not enjoyed gender-bias privilege. There are celebrated feminists living in the most forward nations in the world where women are now respected and are treated as equal to men. Why do they still raise their voice for feminism? The question answers itself. 

There are men who turn defensive and even aggressive when feminism is talked about. In my opinion, the reason they show this misogynist attitude is because they feel insecure about the superior status they claim. Women’s capabilities and emotional strength threaten men. Many do not want women to be given the same opportunities and respect they get, for they know they cannot dominate if women succeed too. Some men get offended because they do not even understand what feminism stands for. They have a preconceived notion that feminists hate men and seek superiority over them.
Accepting feminism neither makes a man look feminine, nor females look masculine. You need not compromise your femininity or masculinity to support feminism. Feminism has no gender. If the cause is to change how the world perceives women, that does not mean men should not support it. Feminism is not a movement against men. It is against a patriarchal society in which women are considered and treated as inferior. In other words, men can be feminists too.

Men need to acknowledge us beyond our body. Women are compassionate, triumphant, positive, bold, passionate, strong, ambitious, hardworking, intelligent, independent, empowered, enlightening, sexy and inspiring. We are achievers. To be acknowledged for all these good traits in us, we women raise the feminism issue. We need the male gender to accept us as capable individuals and respect us the same way they want to be respected. They cannot create the stereotypes of a “beautiful woman” and a “good woman” as boxes to keep us in.

Feminism is not a trend to seek people’s attention. Feminists do not want women to be treated with actions evoking male dominance over women and our young sisters need to remember who went before us and on whose shoulders we have stood to achieve the right to share social platforms.

Because of the spread of feminism and education, the world is becoming a better place for many women and we are now respected and achieving equality with men. But everywhere there are still silenced women dominated by men. No country in the world is a women-safe place yet.
So, stand in solidarity with the women who are still being ill-treated in every home, in every region, in every corner of the world. Stand against rape with us.  Feel for us, and the pain women who are raped undergo and the after-rape life women live. Stand in solidarity with the aspiration to raise boys and girls the same way. Stand up for the socially, politically and morally just call for equal rights and opportunities for women and men.

So to those who have been misunderstanding the whole feminism thing, let's repeat: we neither claim superiority over men, nor seek attention and profit. We ask only for equality. If you still think this is too much to ask for, you just do not accept women as people. And women will not forgive you for this. We will bring the battle to you with ever more determination.

Friday, December 18, 2015

Luxury Brand Christian Louboutin Uplifts Body-Positivity Casting Plus-Size Model

After 20 long years of the very famous French luxury brand’s existence, Christian Louboutin finally casts a plus-size model, breaking the stereotype of only skinny women being beautiful and raising the confidence of women of the other shapes and sizes.

Clementine Desseaux, 27, who is now the face of Christian Louboutin’s campaign for their latest shade of red lipstick, Rouge Matte Velvet, is the first plus-size model to be featured in the brand’s ad campaign. She moved to New York to look for a full-figured model job after she failed to find one in Paris, France.

Women of all sizes and shapes are beautiful. The fashion brands hold a great responsibility and are influential in creating the stereotypes and encouraging the other gender in tagging only the skinny women as beautiful. All the sizes and shapes should be featured in every brand’s ad campaign and no women of sizes and shapes other than skinny are to be discouraged. Young people look up to the models and hence the preference of skinny over plus-size is rampant among the younger generation. 

Congratulations, Christian Louboutin for breaking the barriers with the major leap and uplifting body-positivity.

Saturday, November 14, 2015

INTERVIEW: Dikyi Ukyab



Dikyi Ukyab is a twenty-four year old Tibetan-Nepali based in New York, US. She has her own music album out and she sings cover music as well. She has a very unique passion and talent of hula hooping. Dikyi and her friend, Sangye Dolker, started the Khushi Project to help children in Nepal, affected by the recent traumatising earthquake. 

Tenzin Woesel: Hello, I am Tenzin Woesel. I have started a project to interview young talented Tibetans around the globe to make people of the world aware that Tibet is an independent nation and has its own celebrities just like the other nations. With this project, I also intend to appreciate and encourage young Tibetan women like you who are talented and are pursuing your passion to go further. I found you on Instagram and I checked your blog, your YouTube channel and your SoundCloud account. I love your voice and your big heart in helping the children of Nepal through the Khushi Project. Thank you for accepting my request to have an interview on Skype. 
Dikyi Ukyab: What a pleasure to hear from you. I’m so glad you like our work with the Khushi Project. I love that you’re trying to raise awareness for Tibet. Great work! Thanks for reaching out. 

TW: What do you do currently?
DU: I graduated from SUNY Purchase with a Bachelor’s degree in Political Science and I’m currently doing my Masters in Public Relations from New York University. I make music and do cover music as well. 

TW: What is music for you and since when did you get involved in music?
DU: Music has always been a form of expression for me. It’s a way for me to connect with others and myself. I’ve been singing for as long as I can remember. 

TW: Who’s your inspiration in life?
DU: Personally, my parents have been my inspiration. They work so hard and it inspires me to worker harder. As far as music is concerned, Lady Gaga and Adele have been my inspirations. I really admire the message Lady Gaga gives through her music- spreading positivity and encouragement. I want to be an artist like her. As for Adele, I think we share a lot of similarities in our sound and I love her music as well.

TW: How old were you when you had your debut album ‘Silver Lining’ out and how do you feel about it?
DU: I was twenty years old when I released my debut album ‘Silver Lining’ although I started recording the tracks much earlier. Having a music album out at a young age has been one of my greatest achievements.

TW: Share something about your EP, ‘Memories’.
DU: Memories is a project I was working on. It has three songs. It paints a story about different moments in my life that I feel everyone can connect to. 


TW: You sing cover music too, right? Which song do you think is the best one you have covered so far.
DU: I’m pretty busy with grad school, so when I’m not working on my own music I do some cover music for fun. I’m working on a cover of Drake’s Hotline Bling at the moment. My favourite cover I’ve done is a mash up of ‘Take Me Home’ by Cash Cash and Naughty Boy’s ‘La La La’.

TW: Where do you do the recordings and what music genre are most of your songs?
DU: I did all the recordings of my debut album in Nepal but I recorded the EP at my friend’s house. I record the covers at home. Regarding the genre, almost all of the Nepali songs in my album are folk pop but the second album I am working on currently, is of diverse genre.

TW: Do you write your own songs?
DU: Yes, I do! I started writing lyrics at a young age. The Nepali songs from my debut album, Silver Lining, were written by Durga Lal Shrestha and composed by Nhyoo Bajracharya. The two English songs on the album were written and composed by me. I’m hoping to venture into writing some music in Nepali as well some day as I improve my Nepali.

TW: From all the music you have made till now, which one is your favourite?
DU: My favourite is never constant. It keeps on changing and as for now it is ‘Nothing to Lose’- a song from my EP, ‘Memories’.

TW: How many music videos have you released till date?
DU: I have four music videos out, two from my debut album and the other two from the album I am currently working on. 

TW: Tell me something about the ‘An Evening with Dikyi Ukyab’ concert you held at Army Club in Kathmandu, Nepal and how was your experience?
DU: I have been a part of a few concerts but ‘An evening with Dikyi Ukyab’ was my first solo-concert. I performed fifteen songs for three hours and had other singers like Nima Rumba, Ciney Gurung, and Yogeshwor Amatya performing in between. I did a Tibetan song, one or two English and the rest were Nepali songs. It was a great experience and a proud moment, holding a concert of my own.


TW: Besides the solo concert, have you done any performances?
DU: Yes, I have performed at various events like SFT’s, Chatpati Mela 2014 and so many others. I have also performed at the Rubin Museum of Art during the Chelsea Block Party last summer. The most recent event I performed at, was the Walung Kyidug fundraising show. 


TW: According to your preference, rate English, Tibetan, Hindi and Nepali music.
DU: Although I love music in all languages, I’m most comfortable with English since I was born and brought up here in America. I love Nepalese and Tibetan music as well. 

TW: Please share with us, the acknowledgments you got for your music.
DU: Making music in Nepal has been quite a rewarding journey. In just a short span of time I’ve been welcomed by so many. My first single Jaun topped the charts as #1 on a few stations and my music video for Ke Bhaye Ko topped at #1 on Image Channel’s Top of the Pops. I was nominated as “Best New Artiste of the Year” at the 13th Annual Tuborg Image Award (2012) and touted as the ‘The Next Big Thing’ by Navyaata magazine. I was also nominated for Best New Artist, Best Female Pop Vocal Performance, and Best Pop Rock Album of the Year at the 16th Annual Hits FM Awards (2013). Most recently, I was nominated for Best Vocal Collaboration at the 2015 Hits Fm Awards for “Maile Diyeko Phool” a duet from my upcoming second album.

TW: What shall we expect from you in the coming months?
DU: I’m working on a cover of Drake’s Hotline Bling and I am sharing it soon. I am also redoing the song ‘Nothing To Lose’ from my EP ‘Memories’. Apart from those, I am currently working on my second album. So, you will be hearing a lot of new music soon. 

TW: You have an extraordinary passion and talent of hula hooping . Since when did you start doing this and what inspired you to hula hoop?
DU: I started doing this since last December so it has almost been a year now. I have seen a lot of students hula hooping around me during my undergraduate, but I never got into it. A friend of mine started doing it recently and I finally got it. So I brought one when I visited Nepal last winter and since then, I have been in love with it. I have always been interested in activities like making music, dancing and all kinds of artistic self-expression.  I found that same passion in hula hooping.


TW: You run the Khushi Project and help the children of Nepal. What inspired you to start the project?
DU: My friend Sangye Dolker and I started the Khushi Project after the Nepal earthquake. When we first heard about it, we were shattered. We really wanted to do something that would help the affected people. Since both Sangye and I have worked with children before and are interested in music and dance, we decided to bring back smiles on children’s faces through music and movement.


TW: What are the achievements of the Khushi Project?
DU: Well, Khushi Project is a fundraiser we started to bring music and movement therapy to kids affected by the recent earthquake in Nepal. We raised over $10,000 with the help of our donors, Himalayan Yak restaurant, and our event “Karaoke for Khushi”. Karaoke for Khushi was a night of food and singing at Himalayan Yak, a Tibetan restaurant and cultural hub here in New York. A lot of people joined us that evening and supported. With our funds, we visited different schools in the earthquake affected areas in Nepal, like Gorkha (the epicentre of the earthquake), Sindupalchowk ( the place with the highest death toll) and Jampaling, one of the Tibetan settlements in Nepal, among many others. Along with other friends from New York and Nepal, we made hula hoops and distributed them to the children. We taught them how to hula hoop and sang songs with them too. It was so refreshing to see smiles back on children’s faces and we look forward for more opportunities like this to help them.


TW: Aren’t you proud of yourself? You have achieved a lot at such a young age! I’m so impressed. Keep amazing us with your melodious music. Good luck for the forthcoming album and your life ahead. Thank you for making time for this interview. Stay beautiful. 
DU: Thanks! I’m definitely blessed to receive so much love and support from my fans and the people around me. They’ve been the reason I’ve had a chance to share my music and art. I’ve still got a really long way to go and I hope to do so much more in the future. So I really want to thank my fans and ask others to join me on my journey and stay connected. I hope I can make music one day that can truly touch people and transform minds. Thanks Woesel, again, for helping me tell my story. It’s been a pleasure!

Friday, July 10, 2015

How My Grandmother Left Writing Poetry

Some years ago, I visited my grandmother and we went on a long walk to the far end of the village. During our time together, she told me so many stories of her salad-days; I cannot remember all now but one thing that has struck me since then was about how she left writing poetry.

I have heard from her friends that my grandmother unlike other girls of her age when she was young, would spend a lot of time alone; meditating on life and sometimes imagining herself to be a bird. “She was always seen with a book and a pen, writing poetry in the fields.”, a friend of hers once told me.

“In my early twenties, I was known as ‘the-poet-in-the-making’ in our village.”, my grandmother told me on our walk. “Most of my poems are melancholic for writing poetry had always been an escape for me. It was a friend whom I could turn to when I felt low. I also used to write poems that were beyond the personal. I loved speaking on behalf of the sad people to let know that they were not alone. I wrote about the heartbreaks of people I know and even about heartbreaks I neither felt, nor I had known of.”

“When I was twenty nine, I experienced a traumatic obstacle to my writing. My little sister, my closest friend, Kenny drowned in the ocean while on a family trip to Hawaii. She was only twenty four then. Nobody could save her, it was a tragic death.  I had been through some severe heartbreaks prior to this dreadful incident. I have lost friends, broken up with my boyfriend, failed in papers and so on. I used to look for solace in writing because it had always been a comfort and an escape for my burdened heart. But none of these losses hit me as hard as Kenny’s death did. I stopped writing forever.”

She wiped her tears and I could see unfiltered heartbreak in each teardrop that fell onto her wrinkled cheeks. 

She went on saying, “I had became terribly sad and weak within. I thought penning down my emotions would help me like it used to but surprisingly, I could write nothing. The paper remained blank and the pen, unused. The more I stared at the paper, the more I felt as though it was piercing my heart. I learned that no words were enough to express how bitter I felt within. Months passed and so did years. I am eighty now and it has already been fifty one years since I wrote a single poem.”

I pitied my grandmother for how badly she had been hit by the loss. She could not put her feelings into words anymore. From this, I learned that writing poetry is not the act of sad and weak people. When writers remain strong despite their sadness, they express their emotions through any medium. Poetry is the medium I would choose to express my poet- grandmother’s pain for her. Weakened by 
trauma, she could no longer write .  Perhaps if there had been another poet there to encourage her to write about her sorrow, she could have regained her strength and her poetry writing. Sad poetry does not mean the poet is weak. It shows how strong he/she is despite being massively hurt ; when a person is hurt and weak within as my grandmother was, they cannot write down their feelings at all.

Not all  sad people write and not all sad poetry is written by unhappy poets.

Sunday, July 5, 2015

Ode to His Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama on His 80th Birthday


Born in the land encircled by the snowcapped mountains,
Where human, flora and fauna lived in peace.
You, the sun of Tibet rose from Taktser in Amdo
On the sixth day of July in the year 1935.
Your rays fall on every sentient being, illuminating hearts,
The world rejoices in your presence, Your Holiness!

As the red Chinese flag covered your homeland,
You fled to keep the hopes of your people alive.
Crossing the Himalayas into India's welcome
On the thirtieth day of March in the year 1959.
In Dhasa, the little Lhasa you found a home,
You are our only hope in exile, Your Holiness!

You promote human values and religious harmony,
You spread love and compassion wherever you go.
Honoured with countless awards, the Nobel Peace Prize
On the tenth day of December in the year 1989.
You travel the globe in humility and selflessness,
The whole world looks up to you, Your Holiness!

At sixteen you bore the burden of Tibet,
Living up to the hopes and confidence of the six million.
We will forever protect you as on the Uprising
On the 10th day of March in the year 1959.
The light in the darkness, the hope of millions,
You are the gem; the purest and treasured, Your Holiness!

For everything you have done for the Tibetan cause,
For the universal promotion of human values and harmony.
We bow down in gratitude as you turn mighty eighty
On the sixth day of July in the year 2015.
The world celebrates your long precious life,
Happy eightieth Birthday, Your Holiness!

Monday, June 22, 2015

LOOK AT HER

Look at her.
She loves you a little more each passing day,
Fighting against her feeling of being shot within.
Every morning she wakes up to twisted linen 
From last night’s hurricane; struggling to sleep.

Look at her.
The tears shed from her weary eyes wet her pillow,
While salty sobs soak in her burned cheeks.
Every night she is haunted by your demons,
Keeping her awake with thoughts of you.

Look at her.
She takes strolls alone around the city at 3am,
Dances with the ghosts of you wandering along.
Stumbling each time the ghosts mention your name,
They leave her not, they never do.

Look at her.
A bony body, still refuses to eat.
She stares at her plate as if she sees you there.
Every glass of wine she finishes just to forget you,
She sees your face at the bottom of the glass..

Look at her.
Her chestnut hair uncombed, she never leaves her house,
She snuggles her head in her blanket and weeps.
She would give every broken piece of her to have you back
Her hollow eyes would only sparkle with the colour of yours.

Wednesday, June 17, 2015

For The Love of Coffee

There’s something ravishing about the bond she shares with coffee. It is as strong as the coffee she prefers. She has coffee on her mind and coffee on her checklist. It tops the list of the things she should never leave. She falls for it time and again for making her day beautiful in every little way it could. From the prayers she says before the first sip of the coffee, to finding months-old stains of dripped coffee on her favourite notepad; she loves every bit of how the addictive drink has to do with her sober life. She laughs at how she slurps her coffee and how the thick and foamy milk stays on her upper lips like a moustache. She loves the strong aroma coming from the rich coffee that fills her surrounding and  how the bitter yet sweet flavour always has a way with her. She is in love with coffee a little too much; she at times, even dreams of spending the rest of her life in a café and nowhere else.

Tuesday, June 16, 2015

INTERVIEW: Kunga Chemi


Kunga Chemi is a twenty-one year old Tibetan girl from Rajpur, Dehradun (India) who moved to New York, US in the year 2002 when she was only nine. She has a melodious voice.  She sings cover songs and shares them on social media like Sound Cloud, Facebook, YouTube and Instagram. She is in a music band in New York called; wOne Sound.


Tenzin Woesel: Hello, I am Tenzin Woesel. I am doing a project to interview young talented Tibetans around the globe to make people of the world aware that Tibet is an independent nation and has its own celebrities just like  other nations. With this project, I also intend to appreciate  and encourage young Tibetan women like you who are talented and are pursuing their passion to go further. For almost a year now I have been enjoying listening to your music and I have a few of your songs on my playlist. Thank you for accepting my request to have an interview with you on Skype.
Kunga Chemi: I think what you are doing is really great. Keep up with your awesome job! I hope you can also achieve the most.

TW: Thank you. What do you do currently?
KC: I go to college and I study Liberal Arts. I’m in a music band too.

TW: Who has been your inspiration in life?
KC: My parents have been my inspiration. They inspire me to do better each day. I do what I can to keep them happy.

TW: What is your dream?
KC: I want to be successful in what I am good at.

TW: Other than music, where does your passion lie?
KC: I enjoy teaching small children.

TW: Who’s your favourite music artist and why so?
KC: I have a big crush on Bruno Mars because he has an amazing voice. I love his lyrics  and I think he is a great performer too. He’s the full package.

TW: What musical genres do you listen to?
KC: I prefer listening to RnB and Hip Hop.

TW: How old were you when you first got involved in music?
KC: I have loved singing songs since I was a little girl although I did not sing in front of people when I was younger because that made me feel shy.

TW: How did you get started?
KC: In high school, we have a music production internship. I joined it and since then, I have been singing in front of people. I posted a video on Facebook in which I did my first cover song. I got good comments and that encouraged me to do more. I started gaining confidence. My parents always encourage me to pursue my passion. I even go for music classes.

TW: How many cover songs have you done now?
KC: I have done around 10 covers.

TW: When was the first time you did a cover song and which song was it?
KC: Probably two years back, I did the song “Impossible” by Shontelle for my first cover version.

TW: How do you choose the songs to cover?
KC: I pick my own songs according to what songs I like but sometimes I sing what people request. 

TW: What do you think is the best cover song you have done so far?
KC: Out of all the cover songs I have done, I like the cover I did for Galliyan; a song from a Bollywood movie.

TW: You said you have a musical band. Can you share something about it with us?
KC: Our band is called “wOne Sound”. It is a hip hop and pop group. We have three members: Ashley, Jamel and myself. All of us are from three different nations and we have been together for two years. We have a lot of songs recorded and we already have two songs out so far. We are currently working on another song called “Pinky Ring” which will be coming out with a video later this year.


TW: Where would you like to perform live the most?
KC: I want to perform in India because I was born there and it's from where I moved to US. 

TW: What advantages do you see as an aspiring music artist brought up in the States?
KC: As I told you earlier, I used to be shy singing in front of people when I was a little girl back then in India. I do not think I would have changed had I not moved here. Here, almost everyone has the confidence to pursue their dream and passion because nobody judges you. The environment helps me gain confidence and to work on my passion.

TW: Do you perform your music in public on occasions?
KC: Yes, I do. I have performed a few times with my band. Individually,  I have performed at events like wedding ceremonies and some other occasions. I also performed at the 20th anniversary celebration of Students for Free Tibet (SFT) in New York.

TW: Have you released any singles or music videos?
KC: Yes, I released a music video called ‘Sendhang’ in the year 2012. I cannot take the whole credit for myself because TenKun; a young Tibetan artist helped me with the lyrics and the music. That was my first and the only music I have released individually, so far.

TW: What is the theme of the song ‘Sendhang’? 
KC: The theme of the song is about a girl who is basically expressing her feelings towards a guy and making him believe that he really is the only one she loves. She is willing to change all her bad habits to make him stay.

TW: How did you feel about music videos?
KC: My band mates and I have already brought out a music video for our song ‘Electrified’ before ‘Sendhang’ and that made me more confident while shooting for ‘Sendhang’ although I was a little nervous. I gained a lot of experience and confidence after the shoot. I believe the more I do it, the better I will get. I was very excited to have a music video of my own.

TW: What's your favourite song to sing for Karaoke?
KC: At Karaokes, I love singing to Beyoncé’s songs and some other throwback songs. 

TW: Do you play any musical instruments?
KC: I play acoustic guitar and piano but not too well.

TW: Who is your favourite Tibetan singer in exile?
KC: I like Tenzin Dolma who lives in New York too.  She is 21 years old and has a powerful voice for singing Tibetan songs. There is another singer in exile I like: Tenzin Kunsang , better known as TenKun. He lives in Switzerland. I think he is very talented. He has a good voice, writes his own songs and plays instruments too. 

TW: What's in store for future?
KC: I have been busy with work and school recently so I could not bring out many cover songs but I am definitely going to be more active in future. I am planning to do more cover songs and bring out more music. 

TW: When can we expect to hear another cover song from you and which song are you going to cover?
KC: I’m going to cover the popular song “Love Me Like You Do” from the movie ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ very soon.

TW: Where can everyone reading this find your music ?
KC: I share my music on YouTube, Soundcloud, Tubidy, Facebook and Instagram. 

TW: Let us wrap up the interview here. Thank you for taking time to Skype. I’m sure there will be more and more people listening to your music in future. I hope all your fans loved getting to know you better. 
KC: You’re welcome! I too hope so. Thank you for interviewing me. Skyping was very comfortable and fun with you!


Friday, June 12, 2015

Impermanence

Flowers wither.
Seasons change.
Youth ages.
Feelings fade.
Men pass away;
So does time.

Sunrise and sunset
Birth and death;
Spring, summer,
Autumn, then winter.
Hellos and goodbyes;
Meetings and partings.

Happy a minute;
Sad the next.
No material permanent;
Feelings alike.
For nothing lasts,
Evermore.

Friday, May 8, 2015

The Salman Khan Verdict

Lately been seeing too many posts on social media about the 'SalmanVerdict' and some heated arguments between the pro-Salman group of people and the opposition. Whatsoever, I hope humanity prevails. I'm neither supporting the Salman Khan verdict, nor against it.

In my view, those people who are pro-Salman are not looking at what bad he had done in the past but rather, bringing up all the good things he has been doing so far. On the other hand, the people who are anti-Salman in this case, are send hate for what had happened in the past and are unaware of, or have forgotten how many lives he has saved. 

That incident happened freakin' 13 (THIRTEEN) years back! I do accept the crime he committed and the punishment he deserves but how he values humanity now should also be considered and appreciated. People sending hate are only discouraging him to work for what he has been doing; helping those who are helpless, when people like him are needed today.

I am NOT saying that he should not be punished but HE DEFINITELY DOES NOT DESERVE ALL THE HATE HE GETS FROM THE PEOPLE GOING AGAINST HIM ‘JUST FOR THIS CASE'.

Saturday, April 25, 2015

Oh Ruthless Earthquake, Why Must You Come?

When towers stand tall and buildings, firm;
when men and women work to earn;
when children wear their happy smiles;
why must you come and wreck them all?

Out of the blue, there you turn up
uninvited, unexpected and unforeseen;
shake your hips for hardly any seconds,
dancing to music; no man hears.

The beat you dance to,
turns to groans and moans.
The humans cry in despair,
edifices collapse and souls, crushed.

Why must you come when
all you cause is harm and hurt?
Why must you come when
all you cause is sorrow and suffering?

Why must you come when
all you leave is chaos and corpses?
Why must you come when
all you leave is destruction and dismay?

And in silence you will escape,
leaving people relieved but for a while.
For the few seconds of your emergence,
leaves behind wreckage and ‘SOS’s.

Even if we beg you not to return,
you will, intending a worse destruction.
You’re ruthless, you’re savage,
for you, structures are weak; men, weaker.

12 Questions to All Players from a Curious Victim

1. What do you get in return for cheating and breaking hearts?

2. Do you fake everything right from the beginning or you lose interest as time passes on?

3. Have you ever thought about the feelings of the person you cheated on?

4. Why do you always prey on the innocent hearts?

5. Do you think you can bear the pain if somebody you loved played with your feelings?

6. Have you ever wondered how beautiful our lives would be, if each one of us were devoted to our partners?

7. Why do choose to fool the loyal hearts when there are many other players like you out there?

8. How would you feel if your own brother or sister was deceived and left shattered?

9. Do you think you will realize someday; what you had been doing is a heartless act?

10. Don’t you think life is too short to play games with love and fake feelings?

11. How long are you going to keep doing this awful thing?

12. Don’t you think there is more to life than just being an asshole? 

Thursday, March 19, 2015

The Struggle

I’ve been struggling 
Not to get drowned
In the threatening ocean
Of my own tears.

But every time I feel 
I’ve reached the surface,
The waves turn violent;
My struggle goes vain.

Saturday, February 28, 2015

6 Stages of Unrequited Love for a Stranger

1. You see somebody and there is an instant instinct that he’s going to be your Chuck Bass. 

2. As soon as you get back home, you start looking for his social networking accounts. You stalk him on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and every social network you see he is on.

3. You then gobble up all your fears and inhibition, gather up all your courage to click the buttons; “Add Friend” on Facebook, “Follow” on Twitter, add him on Snapchat and turn the blue button green on Instagram. 

4. He keeps your request on pending and all you could do is stalk his public posts on Facebook and his tweets and posts if his accounts can be viewed by public, wishing he would give you a green signal.

5. You try to find out if you have any mutual friends and if you know anyone related to him. Sometimes, they can be a help and sometimes, not. No matter if they can help or not, the guy you crush on never hits you up.

6. You convince yourself that he is not the only guy and that there is a reason there is no spark in your relationship. You comfort yourself and move on giving up your feelings, though a part of you don’t really wish to. But there are some who will never give up their feelings and still await further heartbreak.

NOTE: Since I am a girl, I have used the tag ‘him’ and that does not mean a guy cannot relate to the things I have listed above. Yes you can! Feel free to add more (if you feel I’ve missed) in the comment section below.  


Monday, February 16, 2015

Spill Your Heart

Spill your heart on me,
Your burdened heart.
The heart shot with a gun,
Loaded with lies and disloyalties.
The heart she shattered and abandoned,
The one that never healed since then.

Burst on me like a water balloon,
Splash me with your sorrows;
How you wish she was still here,
How you wish she was still yours.
The warm cuddles, the tender kisses;
All far gone, all you miss.

Spill your heart on me,
I can be a wall for you.
“Walls have ears.” they say,
And thus I will listen.
Fear not; I’ll keep them to myself,
Walls may have ears but no mouth.

Spill your heart on me,
Your burdened heart.
Burst on me like a water balloon,
And I’ll listen like a wall.
Spill your heart on me,
Spill. Your. Heart.


Monday, January 5, 2015

INTERVIEW: Lhakyila


Lhakyila is a 17 year old comedienne from Kathmandu, Nepal. She is an 11th-grader, studying Humanities at Rupy’s International School. She makes funny videos and posts these on Instagram, where she currently has more than 5k followers.
             
We sat down together a week back in the very cozy Hello Café in Boudha, Nepal for cups of coffee and some snacks, talked about our lives and her vines. (A vine is a short video, usually 5 to 10 seconds long of compiled clips of random stuff. They are frequently posted on social websites such as Facebook, Instagram, Twitter etc.) Our conversation moved from some weird jokes to rather more serious themes. 

Tenzin Woesel: Hello, I am Tenzin Woesel. I have started a project to interview young talented Tibetans around the globe to make people of the world aware that Tibet is an independent nation and has its own celebrities just like other nations. With this project, I also intend to appreciate  and encourage young Tibetan women like you who are talented and are pursuing their passion to go further. I love your funny vines on Instagram. I'm a fan. 
Lhakyila: Oh, thank you.

TW: Have you ever been interviewed before or is this going to be your first time?
L: This is my first ever interview. (So how about a picture together on Snapchat?) A Nepali fashion blogger once told me that she wanted to do an interview with me but somehow that didn’t happen. And after this I got a few proposals which failed too. 

W: You are known by your Instagram account username; lhakyila. What is your full name? 
L: Its Tenzin Lhakyi.

W: What is your favorite subject in school?
L: I love Art the most.

W: When you grow up, what do you want to pursue as a career?
L: I haven't decided yet but I want to study either Theatrical Arts or Psychology.

W: You have more than 5000 followers on Instagram and you are a person of public interest. How do you feel about being so popular and how do you handle fame? 
L: It started off with posting videos for my small circle, just to make them laugh but then it escalated to hundreds following me and then thousands. People enjoy my silly videos and I enjoy making them laugh. My jokes may be popular among Instagramers but I stay as humble as I can.

W: Share your dream with us.
L: My biggest dream is to meet His Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama. And other than that, I have kept a promise to myself to travel to 50 places before I die.

W: Tell me which places rank the top 3 out of the 50 places you want to visit.
L: Paris, LA and Tibet.

W: Who is your celebrity crush and why so?
L: I love Beyoncé because her idea of feminism attracts me.

W: When we were kids, we used to dream about becoming something special and as we grew up, we realized it was a weird and a funny idea.. 
Do you have a childhood wish like that?
L: Yes! I watched a lot of Disney movies and serials when I was a little girl and I have always been so influenced by the characters in the movies. I used to wish I could get to act one of the characters someday.

W: Beside Vines, where does your interest lies?
L: I love playing basketball, swimming and sketching.

W: How did the idea of making Vines come up?
L: I made funny videos on my sister’s laptop while she was out. I usually make sure I delete them before she returns but somehow I had failed to delete one of the videos and she saw it. I think she liked it because she posted it on her Instagram and I got some good comments from her friends. They even asked me to make more of such videos. So I made an Instagram account and since then, I have continued making Vines.

W: Do you get moral support from your family in this field of interest?
L: Yes, I do! My family likes my vines and encourages me to work on my passion. They have even agreed to send me to a theatrical school if I wish to attend one after my schooling. 

W: Do you watch any comedies? Which comedian do you look up to?
L:  I don’t have any favorites at the moment but my friends say that my jokes are kind of like Russell Peter’s jokes so i’m looking forward to watching his comedies.

W: In several videos, you speak in Korean language. Are you a Korean drama and a Kpop freak?
L: Oh yes, I watch so many Korean dramas that now a days, for some of the scenes, I think I don’t need the subtitles (laughs). And as of Kpop, I am a fan of the boy band called Big Bang. 

W: Do you ever make schedules to post your vines? For example, saying to yourself that you will post only 3 vines a week? 
L: No I don’t. I make whenever I feel like making one and I post immediately.

W: We girls are very conscious about how we look and how we present ourself to the world. Do you sometimes cancel making videos because you don’t look good in the camera?
L: No, I don’t. And moreover, in most of the videos my hair was oiled and my mom would say; “Lhakyila, at least wash your hair before you make a video to post.”

W: On a scale of 0-10, rate your self-confidence.
L: Seven. I used to be very shy and didn’t have many friends in the school I attended till class 10 because I was very conscious about how I looked. I used to be pretty fat back then and I always thought people would judge me. Now that I have lost some weight, I feel confident about myself. And posting videos on Instagram helps me become more confident.

W: Besides Tibetan, what other languages can you speak?
L: Since I was born and bred in Nepal, I speak Nepali too. I can also speak Hindi and sometimes Korean (laughs).

W: What was the most awkward moment ever?
L: I once took out my pen case in my class only to find out I’d mistakenly brought the TV remote control instead of the pen case because I was in a hurry when I left home for school. My friends made fun of me. And later that day when I returned home, mom yelled at me saying she had been looking for the TV remote control all day!

W: What was the weirdest thing a fan has done to you?
L: A fan once asked me where I actually live. That scared me and my family enough!

W: Do you ever feel insecure and uncomfortable loitering around your locality?
L: Yes, I do. Sometimes. And I get nervous when people give me that blank stare. But I love the place I live in.

W: How do you handle your nervousness then? 
L: I wear hoodies most of the time so I put on my hood when I get nervous. I can get very nervous sometimes that I cannot even make a move. 

W: What is your relationship status and tell me, would you date a fan?
L: I am single. If he is hot, yes. (Who would not date a hot guy anyways!)

W: Would you describe yourself as  girly or Tom-boyish?
L: I don’t exactly know but sometimes I do realize I am girly enough when I see so many pink-color stuffs in my room. And I remember, one time I didn’t go to school because I was unable to decide what to wear since we wear casual clothes on Friday for school. I found myself surrounded by clothes, clothes and clothes. 

W: Have you ever taken part in the theatrical performances in school?
L: Yes. I am always too keen to take part in these but sadly, up to now I have never got to act the main roles in the plays I have participated in. This disappoints me always. The only time I did get the role of one of the main characters in the play, the play got cancelled. 

W: I checked your ask.fm and there are some stupid questions from the stupid haters. How do you handle those haters?
L: Oh yes, I know! Most of the people on ask.fm are haters and they ask me weird things, mostly about my relationship. I just respond them in a sarcastic way like calling them homies. And in one of the very recent videos, I reacted furiously to the lamest question I was ever asked; what my gender is. 

W: Its 2015 already. What was the biggest thing you achieved last year and what plans do you have for this new year?
L: I have made many people smile watching my videos and I feel that's the biggest achievement. For the new year, I plan to make more videos and entertain more people. 

W: Leave a message for your fans here.
L: I love you all. Thank you for encouraging me to work more on this Vine project. Keep supporting. And the haters, well, I still love you no matter what.

W: Well, this is finally the interview I am planning to work seriously on. Thank you for taking out your time, Lhakyila. Stay beautiful. God bless!
L: That's a good start for both of us. Our first ever interview. I hope we meet again after 5 years, you as a TV Host and me a celebrity. (Laughs) Thank you.